The Adult’s High Expection From A Doting Kid Is Forcing Him/Her To Become A Perfectionist

So, I had mentioned about the cause of the kids to be inferior was due to they were not loved by the adults in my previous post on ” Independent Child is lacked of Adult’s Love”. Some of you might ask : ” What about kids whose parents or guardian are doting on them but at the same time keep a strict hand over them and educate them to be disciplined children?”. In this case, the doting kid is exactly the opposite to that of the independent kid who is lacking of adult’s love. However, this doting kid will also exhibit a sense of inferiority which will make him fear that he has not done something good enough and result in getting reprimanded by the teachers or parents. In fact, this is another kind of inferiority complex as compared with the case of the independent kid who is neglected by the adults. Nevertheless, the inferiority complex grows within the kids of both cases. One thing in common is that they will try their best to find ways to get rid of their inferiority complexes. Most of the time, the disciplined child who is doted by the adults will grow up and become a perfectionist in his adulthood.

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Have you ever come across people who love cleanliness to the extend that the environment has to be perfectly clean and the decoration perfectly neat? Everything has to be neat and clean whether or not it is in the working place or in their own living space. This group of people loves cleanliness and everything has to take place in an orderly manner. The question is : “Why is this group of perfectionists torturing themselves by going into details and expecting results to be perfect? Well, it is not difficult to figure it out. As everybody knows that we saw ourselves as the “Me” during our infant stage and satisfied our own instinct as the main objective. That means that we were not concerning about our own body cleanliness or things surrounding us at that time. Although this kind of slovenly behaviour happening during the infant stage might not gradually disappear as we grow up, it is not going to be accepted by the society in any way. Furthermore, the teachers and parents will have their strong objection to the untidily and idling children for their behaviour.

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As you can see, the habit of keeping things clean and putting things in an orderly manner is mostly originated from the childhood. The inferiority complex is caused by the strict demand on the children’s well behaviour from the parents and teachers. The way to seek freedom from getting scolded by the adults is to do every single thing perfect. The adult’s high expection from a kid is forcing him/her to become a perfectionist when he/she grows up due to their childhood inferiority complex.

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Published by: Silvery on September 25th, 2007 | Filed under Inferiority Afflicted Persons | 2 Comments »

Going after branded goods

Going after branded goods is the reflection of putting on inferiority complex to one’s body. Everybody loves branded goods because it signifies one’s social status and strong purchasing power. Branded goods are expensive stuff but it doesn’t mean that they are good or reflect the buyers have high quality of taste. However, there are a lot of people worshipping branded goods and are willing to spend huge sum of money on buying these expensive stuff. This is interesting, right?

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We all know that only the affluent people can afford to buy the so-called high-pricing branded goods such as LV handbags, Rolex watches, Ralph Lauren shirts, Chanel designer dresses, etc. In other words, buying branded goods symbolizes the trademark of the rich and upper-class society. However, there are some people out there wish to squeeze into the category of so-called high social status but unable to fulfill their dreams. The only way out is to imitate the habits of the rich people by going after the purchase of branded dresses, jewelry, watches, shoes and so on. Their act is just to make themselves feel better and get even psychologically. Whereas, the fact is that this group of people does not have a strong purchasing power but like to imitate the lifestyle of the affluence by taking up golf course, joining country club membership, going for tour at least once a year and so on.

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As mentioned earlier, branded goods is a trademark which equates to an imprinted marking. The marking is used to differentiate the upper-class from the lower-class of people. But the question is : “Why do people want to feel more superior than the others by making themselves living the way which the rich people do?”. There must be some complex psychological motives lying behind in these people’s heart. The psychologists have simplified these psychological motives into two categories, namely the inferiority complex and the anxiety complex. In simplicity, those people who act to be rich are in fact feeling inferior to be classified under the lower-class society and caused anxiety for being looked down by others. This is the reason as to why they have to put on the branded-goods markings on their bodies so as to tell the whole world and also to hypnothize themselves that they are different from the rest.

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From this, we can say that those people who like to go after branded goods are mostly having some psychologically weaknesses. In this case, it is to wear their inferiority complex and anxiety complex on their bodies.

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But again, we have to respect this group of inferiority and anxiety afflicted people because they are in a way having their superiority. By understanding the way they think could help us to grasp their psychological speciality and know how to get along with them harmoniously.

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Nobody would admit that he is living with his Inferiority Complex

Everybody has his own ego so nobody will ever admit that he is afflicted with inferiority complex. He will usually try to disguise his inferiority complex by giving some excuses. However, the more excuses that he gives, the more it will reveal his behaviour abnormality.

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For example, a hiring agency had conducted a survey on the topic of whether the employees were happy with their job in a certain corporation. Of a group of 100 people surveyed, the findings revealed that most of the people were not happy with their jobs because they found that their salaries were too low and the jobs were monotonous. However, the fact was that the people did not like the jobs that they were doing instead of their salaries were low. The low salary was just an excuse.Their intention was to use this excuse as a hint so that the head of department could transfer them to other departments so as to let them do those jobs that they like to do.

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In another case, there are some supervisors who like to find fault in their employees over nitty-gritty such as illegible hand-writtings, late submission of the task, typo error in emails, etc. The fact is that the supervisors are jealous that their subordinates are much more capable than them and do not wish to acknowledge that they themselves are lousy. Their inferiority complex forces them to use some excuses as tools to mask off the superiority of others who are out-performing them.

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Who are the people afflicted with inferiority complex?

The answer is : “Everybody!”. Yes, this includes myself, yourself, your boss, your friends, your idol, your mentor, the passers-by, the great public speaker, the glamourous supermodel, the famous superstar, the successful businessman, the skillful F1 racer, the top stock investor and so on. So you see, you are not alone if you have the inferiority complex. 

Why? Because the most determined and strong person would also have his or her corner of darkness etched on the heart. Of course, the afflicted person would never admit that he or she is living with his/her inferior complex because this is not something one would be proud of . You have to discover it by reading and decoding their behaviour, their language, their attitude, etc. Inferiority complex is just like our shadow which follows us whenever we go throughout our lifetime. It influences our character, our life and our fate. It decides the way we live our life. Psychologist, Alfred Adler, once said : “90% of our inferiority complex come about during our infant stage”.

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Turning Inferiority Complex into Superiority

You could be an Inferiority Conqueror by turning inferiority complex from a resistance to a helping force. People all along regard inferiority complex as a resistance especially when it comes to social interaction. Everybody hopes to grasp the psychological weaknesses of other people when interacting with them so as to avoid stepping on their toes unintentionally. In this way, they can turn enemies into friends. This blog is to give some tips to the readers on how to identify and understand yours and other people’s inferiority complex. Thereby, discovering the weaknesses of those people who intend to hide from you through their unknowing behaviour. Thus, turning inferiority complex into energy and power. Behind those behaviour, language and attitude that people shown to people, there are indeed desires and anxieties hidden inside the heart of these people.

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Understanding Inferiority Complex

When a person is born into this world, he tends to think that he is more superior than anybody else and becomes self-centred. However, when he graudually discovers that this is not the case and it is impossible to stay in the limelight all the time, he will start to lose his confidence and thereby his inferiority complex will start to manifest. But then, inferiority complex is just like the sex organ of the human body whereby it is something private and personal. It cannot be revealed to other people and one would have the tendency to protect it. This then results in the development of some kind of strange reflectivity or weird behaviour whereby the afflicted person will try all means to hide his inferiority so as to protect himself.

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What is Inferiority Complex?

Inferiority Complex is a feeling that one is inferior to others in some way. It is a state of mind in which a person who has a morbid feeling of being inferior to others may try to win recognition for himself by boasting and being agressive. When a person feels that he is not as good as other people or feels defeated or is being rejected, this is indeed the very moment that inferiority complex comes in and weighs a person down. It could pull the feeling of the afflicted person deep down to the bottom of the canyon and not reaching out to the sunlight. Inferiority complex is a kind of energy which could destroy a person and make him feels like living in a world of darkness, living each day as if it is a doomsday. Or it is a kind of power which could boost a person to achieve something great in life and feel as if given a second chance to live. In the fields of psychology and psychoanalysis, inferiority complex is a feeling that could arise from an imagined or actual inferiority in the afflicted person. Such feeling is in the subconscious mind and could drive the person to obtain spectacular achievement or it could cause the person to be extreme in the behaviour.

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