Independent Child is Lacked of Adult’s Love

As mentioned in the earlier post, psychologist Alfred Adler did say that 90% of our inferiority complex was originated from our infant stage. We all know that young children have a strong bond towards their parents and they rely on them for whatever things that they do. If this kind of reliance is being suppressed by certain reason such as the parents are not doting on the child, this will result in the child to behave very independently. Although the child is at such a young age, he is forcing himself to be independent and to complete whichever tasks on their own ability without relying on their parents. Once a person is inclined to such an independent personality since childhood, it will form into a character speciality in his youth or adulthood. This unique characteristic is going to stay for life.

A child by nature has to depend and rely on the adults as they are unable to do all the things by themselves. The way to disguise the child’s anxiety and inferiority complex is to force himself to go against the norm and force himself to be independent due to they cannot get the care and attention from the adults. However, this doesn’t mean that this person has a strong and independent character because his independence is just a self-defence for himself to run away from his anxiety and inferiority for the lack of love from the adults. Gradually, this person will become a self-centred person rather than a perfectionist in his adulthood.

The child’s inferiority complex quoted above is caused by their needs, care and concerns are neglected by the adults or parents. He can do whatever he likes to do because there are nobody out there to control him. The freedom to do whatever he likes to do make him independent. Also, his self-centredness make him strong. So, we can see that the inferiority complex originated from the childhood shapes the person’s character development for life.

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